JD and I are two very different people with very different expectations when it comes to family meal time. When I was growing up and mom was buttering the rolls, we would grab one and eat it. When mom was cutting berries, we would eat a few. It was never a big deal to visit in the kitchen during meal time and snack while you did. I prefer meal time to be this way, it is a major trigger for JD. JD does not like food to be touched until everyone is sat down to the table and prayer has been said. These two different expectations and ideas on how a successful meal time takes place tends to be a point of contention continually in our home and it has been for years. During our numerous discussions on the matter, the ideas we come up with will sound promising, but let's face it... when something is ingrained in you as a belief and a way to do things, it is difficult to alter your way of thinking, even when it would benefit others to do so. After a long night of contemplating how JD, our children, and I could all win and have peace in our home on Sundays during family meals I came to a conclusion...NO MORE SIT DOWN SUNDAY MEALS. I have a theory that if we start calling it Sunday fun meal and present the meal buffet-style, it will change the expectation that is present with a sit down Sunday meal. Meals could include pizza, nachos, hamburgers, potato bars, taco bars, etc. We both want to look back and remember the memories made during the preparation of the meal together. JD and I both desire to have joyful visiting, laughter, kind conversation, and happiness in the home. The way meal time starts out often prevents this from taking place on a weekly basis. I have never been a rule follower. I tend to believe that if the rule does not work for the majority, change the rule! We will change how we present the meal and see how things go.
“The whole concept of 'the perfect meal' is ludicrous.
I knew already that the best meal in the world, the perfect meal, is very rarely the most sophisticated or expensive one....Context and memory play powerful roles in all the truly great meals in one's life.”
“The whole concept of 'the perfect meal' is ludicrous.
I knew already that the best meal in the world, the perfect meal, is very rarely the most sophisticated or expensive one....Context and memory play powerful roles in all the truly great meals in one's life.”
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