The idea of a job done well does not mean the same thing to me as it does to my better half. He is a military man--when you start a job, you stick with it until it is finished. He likes the idea of a home that has organization and structure.
A job well done to me is finishing as many projects as you possibly can, at the same time. I initiate a project that comes to mind, get bored, and venture to a new activity. Eventually I make it back to the first project I started.
I love a clean and organized home, but structure being part of that process has never seemed to be an important part of the equation for me. Over the last 25 years, JD and I have learned how to embrace these differences in one another. Before this coronavirus, in an effort to have all the messes cleaned up before JD returned home from work, I would limit the amount of activities I started during the day. This is very difficult for me:).
I love a clean and organized home, but structure being part of that process has never seemed to be an important part of the equation for me. Over the last 25 years, JD and I have learned how to embrace these differences in one another. Before this coronavirus, in an effort to have all the messes cleaned up before JD returned home from work, I would limit the amount of activities I started during the day. This is very difficult for me:).
At the moment, JD is working from home so it is impossible to have all the projects put away before he gets home. JD loves a project as much as I do. Projects seem to help keep us from having anxiety, which is a worthy goal at the moment. The only difference is that he believes in finishing the first undertaking, before starting a new one. We laugh often at the fact that what I find therapeutic and decompressing, he views as total chaos.
Today, I had numerous projects and messes all over the house and yard. Children were helping at times, Face-timing friends, sitting in front of the TV, and making messes of their own.
Project afternoon for me looks something like this- Children peacefully doing their thing, so that I can listen to whatever is playing on my AirPods at the moment, and do mine. This equals a happy place for me. It also creates the kind of atmosphere that causes my husband to hyperventilate and make his brain feel like it's going to explode.
Tonight, the projects are all finished, the house is put back in order, partly due to the fact that the man who likes organization is a gem and helped me get it that way.
Congratulations to us, we survived another day of social distancing!
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